There’s nothing more frustrating than knowing you’re capable of more—yet watching yourself stall, hesitate, or hit the same roadblocks over and over. It’s like having one foot on the gas and the other on the brake.
I see this all the time with ambitious women. They have big visions, brilliant ideas, and serious drive—but somewhere between the plan and the execution, things go sideways.
The good news? There’s a way to break free from these patterns and step into a cycle that fuels success instead of draining it.
Let me walk you through how this works—plus, how one of my clients used this exact process to increase her revenue by 45% in just three months.
Identify the Self-Sabotage Pattern Keeping You Stuck
Most of us don’t intend to self-sabotage. It happens subtly, like a loop we don’t realize we’re playing on repeat:
Vision – You see the possibility. You’re excited about what’s next.
Plan – You strategize and map out the steps.
Execution – You take action, feeling good at first.
Overwhelm/Confusion – The details start piling up. Progress feels slower than expected.
Self-Doubt – “Maybe I’m not cut out for this.” The confidence wavers.
Loss of Focus & Momentum – You slow down. Procrastination sneaks in. The goal drifts further away.
Sound familiar? You’re not alone.
Midori's Client From Stuck to Scaling
One of my clients, a powerhouse woman running a media company, had a massive vision—she wanted to grow her business and sell it for $10M. She had the talent, the connections, and the industry knowledge.
But there was one problem…
She wasn’t closing deals.
Despite knowing her value, her self-doubt was through the roof. Every time a sales conversation didn’t go as planned, she took it personally.
It reinforced her belief that maybe she wasn’t as strong in business as she thought. That mental loop kept her from confidently asking for the deals she deserved—and it was stalling her success.
We sat down and ran the exercise I’m about to walk you through. The goal was to see her patterns, make them tangible, and create a new way forward.
The Shift: Create Your Success Pattern
Instead of spiraling into frustration, we rewired her approach:
Vision – Stay anchored in the big picture. Why does this matter? What’s the endgame?
Plan – Get clear on next steps, with room for flexibility.
Execution – Take bold action, even if it’s uncomfortable.
Overwhelm/Confusion – Instead of panicking, acknowledge that this is normal and part of growth.
Write Out All Concerns – We got everything out of her head and onto paper. What exactly was making her hesitate?
Laser Focus on Solving – We broke it down into three questions:
Who for my what? – Who could help, and what did she actually need support with? (Turns out, it wasn’t sales—it was confidence.)
What’s the fastest & most valuable solution? – We brought in a sales coach to help her refine her pitch.
Weigh the ROI potential – Instead of second-guessing, she started evaluating deals objectively, without emotional attachment.
Execution Again – She took action from a place of clarity and strategy instead of self-doubt.
The result? Her revenue increased by 45% in just three months.
She stopped letting self-doubt control the outcome and started making power moves. And that $10M goal? Now, it’s not just a vision—it’s a real possibility.
How to Apply This to Your Own Business
If you’re feeling stuck in a loop, take a step back and map it out. Write down where you tend to lose momentum. Then, shift the cycle:
Acknowledge the self-sabotage pattern. Where do you get stuck?
Rewire the process. Use the new framework to get clarity and keep moving.
Get support. Sometimes, the fastest way forward is not doing it alone.
Your success isn’t about working harder—it’s about working differently.
Because the truth is, you don’t need to “fix” yourself. You just need a better strategy to get out of your own way.
Let’s make this the year you break the cycle and step fully into the success you’re meant for.
Are you ready to unlock bigger success??
Guess what – leads and sales won't magically happen.
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